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Drifting apart

Losing connections with family causes distance to grow

Story by Andrea Loredo, staff writer

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Family is one of the most important things to nearly everyone, but sometimes the distance between a family causes them to grow apart. When you live in one country, and your family lives in another, it can be difficult to keep that relationship with them. It becomes very easy for people to become distant, even those who you were once close to.

“It’s like having a best friend next to you,” junior Dulce Bustamante said. “But you can’t have that best friend next to you because you can’t see them, and you can’t talk to them.”

When you are close to your family, it isn’t any different than having your closest friend next to you. However, sometimes that close friend is a thousand miles away. You grow distant and don’t talk as often to them as you wish you could.

“We definitely get more distant the more we don’t see each other,” senior Juan Pena-Garcia  said, “Being born in America is very different because we don’t get the same lifestyle [as our family who lives in Mexico] get[s], so I just feel it makes us more distant from each other.”

Even if a person is born in a different country and is raised in a separate environment, they are still family.

Family should not be about where you were born or where you grew up, but about how close you are with each other and how well you get along.”

— Andrea Loredo

“[Our relationship] is pretty good, but [our relationship] is different because I’m not there,” freshman Angela Olande said, “So, when we talk sometimes it’s pretty awkward because you don’t know what to talk about with them.”

Communication is a key part of any kind of relationship. Even if it’s just for a couple of minutes, talking to family is important. It can strengthen a bond that may be on the edge of breaking or even create a new one.

“We are family, but when I see them it does not feel like family — it feels like we are strangers,” junior Juan Bustamante said. “It’s been so long since I’ve seen them. I don’t know if they still like the same stuff that they used to, or how their personalities have changed.”

It’s easy to feel distant from them, especially since they live far away from each other. It’s like being close to someone and then suddenly that person leaves, or goes some place where you can no longer see them as often.      

Family is family and the distance between one another should not have to affect the way that people are connected. Growing apart and becoming independent is normal in every family, but that should not have to change the relationship within the family. Family should stick together no matter what. Family is not about how far away people are from each other or about how you don’t get along with a person. Family is about staying connected with each other. True family is about being there for each other, not leaving anyone behind.

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Andrea Loredo, staff writer

Andrea Loredo is a junior at THS. You can find her inside listening to music and playing video games while hiding from the sun. She could also be found swimming her life away, pretending to be a mermaid in the ocean with the dolphins. She is very open about what she believes and likes to stand by her opinion. Overall, she is just a short, Mexican girl who likes to live her life to the best of her abilities, no matter what happens.   

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Margaret Debenport, culture editor

Texas High School junior Margaret Debenport lives a chaotic life as a culture editor, photographer and graphics editor for social media. Margaret’s goal is to leave every place better than she found it, which is why she carries a reusable metal water bottle (single-use plastic items are filling the ocean) and picks up every piece of trash she sees on the ground (no, she is not sorry if you are stuck behind her in the hallways). She spends her very little free time reading books, playing with her two cats (Ramen and Karate), painting, doodling or convincing her parents to adopt a dog (Mom, please do it). You can always find her wanting to tell a funny story but unable to make anyone laugh at it because of her feeling a need to add useless background information (hence the excessive use of parentheses).

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